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Six Ways To Get People To Like You

I wasn’t a reader; at all. One I started working with business owners I relaized real quick I was not the smartest person in the room… ever. I wanted to have the wisdom those people had and I would have to get it if I ever wanted more clients.

How To Win Friends

One of the most impactful (and convicting) books I’ve ever read is How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. It was convicting because I always had a knack for drawing people too me; but somehow I had the uncanny ability to repel them just as fast. This book helped me understand exactly why.


Here are six simple principles that helped me win and keep friends:

  1. Learn to be genuniely interested in others. Key word here is genuinely.
  2. SMILE! This took work for me. I literally would record myself giving a talk and critique myself and it helps.
  3. Remember their name. Eveeryone likes to hear their name and when we remember it it makes them feel important.
  4. Be a good listener. Listen intently, not simply to reply but rather to truly understand. (Ref Dr. Stephen R. Covey)
  5. Show interest in others’ interests. Learn their hobbies etc. and talk about that.
  6. Make them feel important. Remembering their name helps this but also ediying them or paying them a compliemnt etc.

I hope this can help you all out in your networking and or sales ventures.

Blessings,

Colin

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Not All Is As Seems

We all have trials. “Life” happens to us all however not every “bad” is meant to be or stay bad.  

We’ve heard many takes on this all: “It’s not how far we fall but rather how high we bounce back up.” “It’s not what happens to us but how we respond.” or “It’s not about what happens to us but rather what we do with what happens to us.” I could go on and on but mindset and response-ability is key.

To quote a once great philosopher: “Not all is as seems.” Mr. Miyagi

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying everything bad that happens is good but rather if we chose to have or develop the mindset and or faith, we can see the whole puzzle as opposed to focus on the piece we are working with and see that all things work together for good.

Not all storms are meant to disrupt your life. Some are meant to clear your path.

Keep fighting. Never give up. Never lose hope. Never lose faith!

Be blessed,

Colin

Be Anxious For Nothing.

A professor asks his class: “If you had $86,400.00 and someone stole $10.00 from you, would you throw away the $86,390.00 you still have to try and get your $10.00 back? Or would you just let it go?”

They all said they would let it go.

He then told them: “You have 86,400 seconds every single day and this time is much more valuable than money. You can always work for more money, but once a second passes, you can never get that time back.”

Every time someone upsets us, it probably took 10 seconds, so why do we throw away the other 86,390 seconds worrying about it or being upset? We all make this mistake at some point so lets work, intentionally, to start letting the little things go and help inspire others to do the same thing.

Blessings,

Colin Sexton

Have An Attitude Of Gratitude!

In today’s hectic and often stressful lifestyle we sometimes can forget to count our blessings and be thankful for what we have.


With such a high emphasis on Hollywood, Professional Athletes or famous musicians and their glamorous lifestyle, it is easy to focus on what we don’t have rather than focus on what we do have.


Many of us may wake up in the morning with the same mindset and thinking as we went to bed with the night before. If that is the case; its time for a quick and easy “pattern interrupt”.


From here on out, start each day with an attitude of gratitude and write down three things you are grateful for.  Try not to write the same ones down from the previous day.


Try this for 21 days and see what changes for you. 🙂

Blessings,

Colin Sexton

Five Steps To Conflict Resolution

CONFLICT:

It is everywhere. In our relationships, at our jobs, in our businesses etc.  Sadly, more often than not it goes unresolved. There are several reasons for this which would take days to identify and explain so rather than look at the reasons for the problem, I chose to share some tips for resolving the problem

Regardless how or why the conflict started, let’s just jump to this simple fact. It started. Conflict is seldom between one person and themselves. The old saying: “It takes two to tango” rings true with any conflict..

With that said let’s jump into the steps to effectively resolve that conflict.

1. AFFIRM THE RELATIONSHIP:

The reason I’m here is because I honestly value your friendship more than I value the discomfort of confronting my feelings.

2. SEEK TO UNDERSTAND:

I love what Stephen Covey says: “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” That principle is gold After arriving at a clear understanding, share each others thoughts and perspectives in a non-attacking manner to help the other person see all views.

3. SEEK TO BE UNDERSTOOD:

After arriving at a clear understanding, share each others thoughts and perspectives in a non-attacking manner to help the other person see all views.

4.  TAKE RESPONSIBILITY:

A sincere apology will not only affirm the relationship, but it can be magic for diffusing any “hurt feelings”.

5.  SEEK AGREEMENT:

After all parties have apologized and accepted responsibility for their share of the conflict, seeking agreement means re-visiting the shared vision that pulled both sides together in the first place.  Once everyone agrees that the cause is greater than the conflict all parties will be able to successfully move forward.

 

Hopefully this helped shed some light on ways to bring resolve to conflict in any and every area of life.

Blessings,

Colin Sexton

Freedom & Leadership Entrepreneurs To The Resuce!

 

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What is it?  Does it still exist?  I was brought up in a generation where we were taught five simple steps to a successful life:

• Go to school & get good grades
• Go to college
• Get a good job with benefits
• Work hard and get recognized & rewarded for it
• Retire at 55

Does this still work? Does anyone know anyone who went to college but doesn’t have a career in their field? Does anyone know anyone who does have a “good job” in their career but their company owns them? Does anyone know ANY one who can actually retire at 55? 60? 65?

Do you see the trend?

There is a huge shift happening in the economy that has tens of thousands of people turning their 401 K (or sometimes Special K’s) to start their own businesses; to become entrepreneurs, or buy into a franchise (PLEASE check the FEES and actual PROFITS of this option) which is GREAT; unless they haven’t done research and are unwilling to learn what they don’t know.

Now, I am all for being an entrepreneur and am one myself, however, statistics show an alarmingly high rate of businesses fail within the first 5 years and few actually generate a profit if they make it. So what is one to do?

PLAN! Make sure this is not a “spontaneous” decision. (Not that that won’t work) but it is much safer if it is something that is a passion of yours as you will truly enjoy it if it is and also if it is something you have been planning or dreaming about for a long time.

Also make sure you have a good business plan, marketing strategy and check how many other like businesses may be in the area; but the number one thing that will give you an edge over the others is INFORMATION. The companies that learn at a faster rate than the others, will be the ones to grow (both personally and business) faster.

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Is one of the most if not THE most important area to learn and grow in. True leadership will teach principles of integrity, character and horror as well as people skills, conflict resolution and over all leadership as opposed to “management”.

We are now in the “Information Age” and leadership information is honestly the difference between where you are and where you want to be, again, both personally and in business.

Now imagine you are able to combine leadership development as an entrepreneur with a systematic (Franchise) growth plan and continued education platform? That, interestingly enough, is exactly what LIFE Leadership has done. The LIFE program offers PROFIT SHARING to individuals who become LIFE members to learn for their own personal growth, to better run their businesses or corporations or if they want to utilize their true entrepreneurial spirit and gifts, build communities of leaders. In either case this is a “win/win” option as you can never “lose” if you are investing in knowledge.

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To quote:
“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.” – Benjamin Franklin

I encourage all of you who have started their own business or are thinking about it, to look into this program/opportunity whether it is to better run your business or to make LIFE your business. College may teach us to succeed at a job, but the LIFE business seems to be focused and determined to help people succeed in LIFE. What good is a “good job” if your marriage is falling apart? What good is $200,000 a year if you don’t know how to manage it? If you spend it your still broke!

I encourage you all to chase your DREAMS, but also encourage you all to plan them, and if possible, learn from someone who actually has the results you want or a COMMUNITY of them!

God Bless,

Colin Sexton