What Do You Want To Be When You Give Up?

What do you want to be when you give up? 

“Give up what” you ask? Funny you should ask! 🙂  Your DREAMS!


What If?...


I was doing the Facebook scroll and ran across this cartoon by cartoonist Joe Dator Cartoonist (Who’s name/credits sadly have been removed from the viral pic) and it really hit me because this is EXACTLY what we try to fight…. people giving up on their dreams!

This cartoon paints a picture so incredibly realistic its not even funny…literally as so many have just settled for “employee”, “mediocrity” just “going with the flow” (which in many cases if compared to the “flow” of a dead fish floating down stream).

What happened to this pic in it’s ORIGINAL form?  Remember when we were kids and asked “What do you want to be when you grow up?”  Remember the DREAMS we had?  The cars?  The houses? The travels etc.?  Remember the things we wanted to ACCOMPLISH in life?  Astronaut?  Movie Star? Supermodel? Famous musician? Entrepreneur extraordinaire ? What happened?

I’ll tell you what happened.  We have been conditioned to think THINKING outside the box was bad, silly, ridiculous.  Even our friends and family in many cases will tell us: “Good luck with that”, “You’ll never make it” or “Get real!”.

We have also been conditioned to think FAILURE is bad.  So lets add the two up:


As easy as it was to “type” that equation it reminded me of when “I” had given up on MY dreams.  I since have wrote my OWN equation which has produced a much different outcome.

You can write YOUR own equation, visualize YOUR future the way YOU want it, learn from people who have results you want and you will never have to answer the question in the cartoon.

What do you want out of life? Don’t let where you are define you.  Define NOW where you want to be and get there. Not sure how?  I can and WILL help you.  It’s what I do. 🙂


Colin Sexton




FEAR NOT! Don’t Let Circumstances Stop You From Your Dreams!

Just a short post today as I reflect on so many recent conversations this last week of people who are entrepreneur minded and want to do something different and get out of corporate America but have fears for various reasons: doubt in their ability, critics, fear of the unknown, failure, the economy etc.Eaglecropquote

I just wanted to take a minute to address each of those situations…

1.  Doubt:  First things I like to tell/remind people is you were created for a reason and purpose.  You have the same “ability” to succeed as anyone else.  The key is to find your passion, discover your purpose and define your strengths and GO!  Surround yourself with other leaders who believe in you and make sure you believe in you!

2.  Critics: Who cares? 🙂 (Sorry… 🙂  Chances are if they criticize you for becoming an entrepreneur or thinking outside of the box, they will always be trapped in the very mental, financial or social matrix you are fighting to get OUT of.

3.  Fear of the Unknown: I never feared the unknown because for some reason, to me, the “known” was very boring.   Now that coupled with improper information and thinking during my youth unfortunately took me down a wrong path BUT I rose from the ashes to get things right and succeed.  NEVER fear the unknown for we know what we know but we DON’T know what we don’t know and it’s what we learn after we know it all that matters…

4. Failure:  This video link explains what I think about FAILURE. 🙂

5.  Economy: There were many businesses and entrepreneurs that prospered and rose to success in a down economy even the great depression.   Inventions, real estate and a true understanding of business and leadership can help anyone make it and stay a float in a down economy.  The KEY is to SAVE money NOW not spend it frivolously as capitol is going to be the difference maker.

To sum it all up:

1.  Write down your dreams.

2.  Have a game plan and set goals.

3.  Learn from people who have succeeded already.

4.  Never listen to critics or let them take the wind from your sales.

5.  Never give up. NEVER!




Colin Sexton


Do You Understand Your Employees? Your Friends? Your Family?



Understaning the four temperaments is crucial for any and every relationship both personally AND in business.

There are so many avenues to take as I start typing this.  There are so many types of relationships:  Marriage, parenting, friends, co-workers, other family etc.  I hope to uncover a couple of known but NOT so known common denominators that are essential in ALL relationships as well as direct you all to some helpful information that has helped tens of thoousands of people

Maybe you are married and struggling to keep it together, rekindle the fire or simply “understand” your spouse.  Maybe you are having a really tough time with your relationship, or lack of a relationship, you’re your children.  Maybe you have jumped from relationship to relationship never having one work out always thinking it’s the “other person” all the time or maybe you have had a pattern or relationship issues with every boss or co-worker you have ever had, again, thinking it’s always the “other person”.

I will list the common denominators that impact all relationships and explain a little about how and why they do.

PERSONALITY:  As there are many different people, there are many different personality traits within each and every one of us.  You may have heard some of these terms but never understood exactly what they mean as some people, consultants or counselors will label them differently.  Some experts say there are 4 different personalities, some say 16, some say 32.  Some label them by words, colors or energies.  I have found in dealing with many people that there are many “disorders” that people are “medicated” for, that are often simply personality traits!!!  NOW how important is it to understand them?


Here are a few examples of personality labels: 

Blue, Red, Yellow and White or Blue, Orange, Gold and Green (among others).

Right Brain Introvert, Right Brain Extrovert, Left Brain Introvert and Left Brain Extrovert. (This is commonly used in horse training as well)

D.I.S.C.  or Dominant, Inspiring, Supportive and Cautious

Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic and Sanguine.

I will explain just a little on the different types to help you even through this post, understand people around you better.  It is not always “our fault” we are the way we are but it can be our fault if we STAY there. J)

The Choleric: (Dominant) is generally an extrovert and a very driven person who is said to be a “born leader”.  The Choleric is also known as dynamic, goal oriented, one to delegate, one who thrives on opposition and moves quickly into action.  Some of their short comings however are that they are strong willed, impatient, bossy, not complementary and quick tempered. ( Yes I AM working on all of theses  )

The Sanguine:  (Inspiring) is also commonly an extrovert who is also said to possess strong leadership skills as they usually have an appealing personality, very talkative, “LIFE of the party”, enthusiastic, emotional, always a “kid at heart” or (just a kid!), curious, spontaneous and a “live for today” attitude.  As FUN we sound “we” sound we also have some slight wrinkles to iron out such as our restless energy, sometimes talk TOO much and are TOO energetic to where we completely freak people out!, we can have a tendency to complain and be egotistical (Not me I’m one of the most humble people I know!! 🙂 ) and we never seem to “grow up”.

The Melancholic:  (Supportive) is going to be a thoughtful, analytical, sensitive and contentious.  They are one to set high standards, be very schedule/detail oriented, have the ability to see the problem and find a creative solution.  Some of their weaknesses are:  They tend to be moody or depressed, self-centered (wanting attention to them), remembers the negatives and has a tendency to have a low self-image.

The Phlegmatic:  (Cautious) is generally going to have a “low key” personality, easy going, calm cool and collected, patient and sympathetic.  They however tend to be unenthusiastic, low motivated, self-righteous, shy and worrisome.

To sum it up, let’s use a scenario of car keys.  A Melancholic personality may make SURE they put the car keys in the same place every single time, the Choleric may get mad if they can’t find them fast enough, a Phlegmatic may just not care while a Sanguine may lose them every time or possibly forget they even have a car.

Now you may have been able to identify some of these characteristics in either yourself, spouse or co-worker.  Here is where knowing this can be beneficial.

Once you understand “them” a little more, you may be able to have a better idea how to approach and communicate with them and realize it’s not so much about “what” we say, or even how we say it but rather what they heard.

Hope this sheds some light on a few things for y’all

I would love to hear your feedback!

God Bless,

Colin Sexton


The Power Of Debt and Self Development

If you were to go to any city and interview people on the streets, ask any friends or relatives or co-workers at your job and ask them: “Would you rather be in debt or out of debt?”  what to you think the percentage of each answer would be?  50/50?  60/40? 100/0?

Lets face it, very few of us WANT to be in debt (I am avoiding saying “no one” wants to be in debt because I always get that ONE person who…. ) 🙂 but in as much as few of us want to be in debt, many of us make several choices, on purpose, daily that actually put, or worse yet keep us in debt.  As soon as we fall into the matrix of debt and compound interest we are often trapped.  Compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world.  With this wonderful creation, we can all wake up more broke than we were when we went to bed the night before! 🙂

In 1999 Warren Buffet was speaking to a group of students in Nebraska about financial success and the three most important principles he shared were:

1. The most important thing to do to succeed is get out of debt.  “You cant make financial progress borrowing money at 18-20%”

2.  The second thing to do is stay out of debt.”  He said “It’s way easier to stay out of trouble than to get out of trouble.”

3.  Invest in yourself! He talked of reading, not needing big name schools with big dollar tuition and getting your mind prepared.  “Your best financial future is your own ability and the capacity to use those abilities to their potential.” and “The biggest thing for your financial future is your self.”

It is interesting that Ben Franklin years before also advised:

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”


I will add the talk from Warren Buffet soon!


Be blessed,


Colin Sexton

“I Am a Self Made….”

We have all heard it; “I’m a self made man/woman!” as if they never learned any success habits, motivation or advice from anyone but themselves. Seems kind of fishy eh?


People are quick to take full credit for their success but has anyone ever heard anyone say “I’m a self made FAILURE!?” Nope! “Why not?” you ask? Funny you should ask! Here is the answer: When it comes to failing, people usually have someone else to blame for that, so there is no reason to take credit for failure as long as it’s someone elses fault. Coincidentally, blaming others is one of the main reasons people CONTINUE to fail because if we don’t take responsibility for failure, we will never look for what we need to change as in our minds, it isn’t us that needs to change but rather the person or circumstance we are blaming.

Failing in itself is not bad by any means, in fact, as long as we can learn from it and fail forward, it can be the best thing to happen to us if we let it.  How many times did you fail trying to walk?  Trying to ride a bike? Catch a baseball or defend a spiked volleyball?  Do you see the power and value in failing?

Embrace it! learn from it! Let it refine and transform you into a success!

Be Blessed,

Colin Sexton




How many of you remember how many times you fell trying to walk as a baby?  How about falling as you learned how to ride a bike?  Catching a baseball or football?  Imagine if we had all quit trying to walk after we fell the fifth time?  Imagine a world of adults crawling around because we refused to endure the struggle….

Learning how to walk down the road to success is no different.  Anytime we strive to achieve anything of importance, especially if it is against the “status quo” or the “Council of They” we will face struggle.  Heck, even in the Bible Jesus says “In this world you will have trouble”.  So if we are told we will have trouble just being, there is no doubt that on your way to achieving you will have trouble or “struggle”.

Sadly, many of us don’t always remember the greatness that is within us and that we were created for so we tend to lose the will to keep going.  There are many reasons we may talk our self out of persevering :

1.  We may not have a true destination, big enough dream or why that we are striving for. (When taking a trip, we usually plan out where we are going and map out how to get there.  We must also know our end point or dream on the road to our dreams)

2. We talk our selves out of it often convincing ourselves we aren’t good enough or worthy of success. (I can’t believe how I used to talk to myself as a teenager and young adult.  I was sabotaging myself! If our friends talked to us the way we talk to ourselves sometimes, we’d pop ’em in the nose! 🙂

3. We lack support or a community of people heading in the same direction.  (Many people around us believe it or not, do not always want to see us succeed or strive for excellence. It actually can convict others that they may have to change something in their lives in order to change something in their lives and change isn’t always welcome.)

4.  Excuses.  We make excuses.  I was alllllllllllllways making excuses why I “couldn’t” do this or that because of my health, finances etc. In the book The Magic Of Thinking Big there is a whole chapter dedicated to this exact topic.

Without the struggle, the victory wouldn’t mean as much.  Let me leave you with a few examples of people who struggled and how and their outcome will be self explanatory.

–  Sylvester Stalone:  Sold his dog (His best friend) for $50 to feed himself on his way to success.

–  Thomas Edison:  A teacher of his said he was “To stupid to learn anything”. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.

–  Henry Ford:  failed and went broke five times before he succeeded.

–  Vince Lombardi:  It was said of him: “He possesses minimal football knowledge and lacks motivation.” Lombardi would later write, It’s not whether you get knocked down; it’s whether you get back up. Just never quit!

–  Michael Jordan (Contrary to popular belief he wasn’t “cut” from his team but placed on JV) still his struggles made him.  He is quoted: “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”  SUCCESSSTRUGGLE

To sum it up: Go through struggle.  Don’t become it.  Never quit!



Be blessed,

Colin Sexton



Trapped in the Financial Matrix

I recently got back from visiting LIFE Leadership founder and #1 USA Today, Wall Street Journal and New York Times Best Selling Author Orrin Woodward down at his place in FLorida where he gave a talk on the following article for a group of us there.

I am blessed and honored to be partnered with Mr. Woodward and the other founders of LIFE Leadership.  I have completely different thinking on finances and economics as well as leadership and for the FIRST time in over 30 years have a savings built up as a result of applying the principles LIFE Leadership teaches.  

I am simply copying this from his page as there is no way I can put it into better words.

High-paying longterm jobs are exiting North America at an alarming rate. Nonetheless, citizens of America and Canada seem unable (in some cases unwilling) to cut expenses. The latest numbers on American indebtedness (Canadian numbers are similarly dismal), both consumer debt and home mortgages, is staggering.

The latest GoBankingRates report found the average American is more than $225,000 in debt with little savings. The website identified (using the earnings, savings, and various loans) the “average American’s” (calling her ‘Mary Smith’) financial status.

GoBankingRates editor Jennifer Calonia stated that, “Mary is 37, the current median age of an American. She’s a non-Hispanic White, the largest demographic in the country, and she works in retail sales, the most common occupation in the United States”

Unfortunately, Mary’s pay and debt load is a train wreck in progress. Calonia noted, “Until we witness a much more dramatic return to permanent, long-term employment in the private sector, Mary Smith’s scenario, which leaves her drowning in debt and without adequate savings, will continue to play out, especially as more companies rely on temporary, low-wage work.”

According to the latest USA data, the real (inflation adjusted) median household income was $51,939 in 2013. However, one must remember that household income is the combined incomes from everyone working in the house. Basically, this means the average personal income is somewhere around $30k. Further, the total income has trended downward since 2007, falling 8% from the pre-recession peak of $56,436 and remains well below the 1999 record of $56,895.

In other words, household income, over the last 16 years, has actually gone down! Imagine working for 16 years straight only to receive less money than one did originally. To compound this pain, inflation has caused most other prices to skyrocket, leaving Americans bewildered and frustrated. This simply cannot continue indefinitely. Compare the average income of Americans with the average debt loads and a forthcoming financial disaster becomes apparent. 

Here is a summary of the average debt numbers.

Average credit card debt among indebted households: $15,263

Average credit card interest rate: 14.95% APR

Average mortgage debt: $147,591

Average outstanding student loan balance: $31,646

Average auto loan debt: $30,738

Only 59 percent of Americans have at least $500 in a savings account saved.


Unknown1LIFE Leadership has the Financial Fitness Program to help people across the world learn how to play defense and offense in order to break free from the increasingly oppressive  Financial Matrix. Few understand the difference between expenses and investments and, unfortunately, most people maximize expenses while minimizing investments. LIFE Leadership, in contrast, teaches how to build wealth for the longterm by slashing expenses and investing in your #1 asset – yourself. If you are looking for an escape path from the Financial Matrix, LIFE Leadership has is the fasttrack. I feel like Morpheus explaining to people trapped in the matrix the plan to set them free:

Morpheus: When the (Financial) Matrix was first built, there was a man born inside who (he purchased a Financial Fitness Pack ) had the ability to change whatever he wanted, to remake the (Financial) Matrix as he saw fit. It was he who freed the first of us, taught us the truth : ‘As long as the (Financial) Matrix exists, the human race will never be free.’ After he died, the Oracle prophesied his return, and that his coming would hail the destruction of the (Financial) Matrix, end the war, bring freedom to our people. That is why there are those of us who have spent our entire lives searching the (Financial) Matrix, looking for him. I did what I did because…I believe that search is over. – (LIFE Leadership is here.)

Isn’t it time you learned the Defense, Offense, and Playing Field of finances so you too can break free from the Financial Matrix?



Orrin Woodward

Hopefully this opened a few eyes out there.  We all “kind of” know it’s happening and we all “kind of” see it but many are to “busy” or to “entertained” to realize the sense of urgency of getting out of it.

There IS hope.  There IS different information and there IS…..another way

Be blessed,

Colin Sexton

LEADERSHIP: Theory vs Application

What is leadership?

If you were to ask twenty CEO’s that question you would likely get close to twenty different answers and quite honestly they might all be right; but what exactly is it?  How is it different than management? What does a leader do?LLR

I love what Orrin Woodward (#1 Best selling Author and Inc. Magazine Top 50 Leadership and Management expert) says: “Average leaders raise the bar on themselves; good leaders raise the bar for others; great leaders inspire others to raise their own bar.”

Today’s leader will inspire, encourage, have a vision as well as be willing to get in the trenches and lead by example.

In their book Launching a Leadership Revolution Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady discuss the five levels of influence where ultimately a leader will actually develop leaders that develop other leaders.

Leadership is a unique field because one can read a few leadership books and write a great article or even a book on leadership, maybe even do a great talk or seminar on leadership; the principles and theory of it, but does that make them a leader?  They may know a lot about leadership but can they actually gain enough influence with people, put together a team, organization or following and truly lead people?  There is where you will find the difference between leadership theory and application.

There is a growing awareness of the difference of management and leadership in today’s business world.   The “management” of the past must giveway to the LEADERSHIP of the future.  I actually heard recently (from Forbes I believe) that the future of business is managementLESS.  More and more companies/corporations are realizing the importance of true leadership.  It is a well know fact that most people don’t quit their “jobs” they quit their bosses and with employee turnover being an incredibly costly issue, developing “employee loyalty” through true leadership is one of the greatest assets a company can invest in and develop.

So “How do I become or develop leaders within my organization?” you ask?  Funny you should ask! 🙂

First and most important is to become a student of leadership.  We must be honable and humble enough to learn for if we are to big to learn then we are to small to lead. (OUCH!)  It is often said “Not all readers are leaders but all leaders are readers”.  Which brings me to my three points and keys to success not only in leadership but honestly anything.

1. Read

2. Listen

3. Associate

You may have heard the old saying: “If you hang around dogs, you’ll get fleas”.  There is definitely some truth to that.  In the same respect, if you hang around leaders or successfull people the same principle will apply only to our advantage so association is a huge part in the whole process.

In this short video Chris Brady touches on that just a little.

I would like to ask a question: How many of your sales force, managers or executives are actively & on purpose reading & listening to sales/leadership material or associating with people who are? Imagine what your “numbers” would look like if they all were… Imagine what your competitions numbers would look like if THEY were. 😉

If you were to ask for a show of hands of people in your company who were how many would go up?  Below is another SHORT video of a community of leaders who everyone in the room, 15,000 or so, ARE actively reading, listening and associating with success and leaders.



Colin Sexton

Happy New Year! How about a new YOU?

Happy new YOU!

We are entering another New Year, and we have yet another New Year resolution.

Here is something to think about.  If one choses to come to America they are allowed two bags of belongings weighing 50 pounds each. Any amount over 50 pounds is considered “extra baggage”. You have two options:

Option #1) You can unload the ”extra” baggage in front of everyone which will hold up everyone in line behind you slowing them down.

Option #2) Pay the price of having extra baggage.

STOP!!!! Do NOT bring your extra baggage into the New Year or it will cost you!

It is time. This is the time of year where everyone makes the resolution to lose weight or get on the latest fitness challenge…. until February!  Now don’t get me wrong. I am all for a healthy diet (Correct eating habits not “pills”) and exercise routine (As long as not over stressing your body/immune system) but what if we focused more on the inside as opposed to the outside? So many people truly want to stick with their resolutionsand get the results they KNOW they can get but they tend to lack the support or a ”community” to help keep them accountable, the drive to stay committed or lack of belief that they really CAN do it which ALL stems from our thinking.  So, let’s make a list of ALL the New Year’s resolutions we have quit and make a resolution to quit quitting!

There is nothing wrong with looking back on our failures as long as we do not dwell on them but rather LEARN from them.  We can’t focus on the road ahead if we’re looking in the rearview mirror.

Let’s look back at why we quit o ur resolutions; I think you all will find a common denominator in the reasons for them regardless of what they were or who you are. It was more than likely our thinking. What if we could reframe our thinking first, then set out to improve the areas with the right attitude, motivation and belief?  What if we actually set goals to strive for and rewarded our self when we reach them? I challenge you all to make a list of everything you want to improve, find a friend or group to work on different things together, hold one another accountable and start starting and QUIT QUITTING!

Before you set out on this journey, ask yourself a couple questions. Be 100% honest and actually think about them like you never have before.

1) What is my passion? What is it in life you are truly passionate about? If your job and money were not an object, what would the one thing in life you would love to do be?

2) What is your purpose? It is NOT “by chance” you or we are here. We were created for a purpose. We were created for greatness. There is not one of you out there that can’t excel at something to the point of impacting lives in a positive way.

Take some time to truly think about the above questions. Turn the T.V. off, stereo off and even cell phone off (Yes, there IS “life after mute”) and think about them, then seek to find resolve.

Here is a list taken from the book Resolved by Orrin Woodward to help inspire you all to look for some different areas in life to find resolution for. Let’s make this yearDIFFERENT and make the resolution lasta LIFE-time not just a month. Resolved3

1) I resolve to discover my God given purpose.

2) I resolve to choose my character over reputation anytime they conflict.

3) I resolve to have a positive attitude in all situations.

5) I resolve to align my conscious (ant) with my subconscious (elephant) mind towards my vision. (Read the book “The Ant and the Elephant”

6) I resolve to develop and implement a game plan in each area of my life.

7) I resolve to develop the art and science of friendship.

8) I resolve to develop financial intelligence.

9) I resolve to develop the art and science of leadership.

10) I resolve to develop the art of conflict resolution.

11) I resolve to develop systems thinking.

12) I resolve to develop Adversity Quotient.

13) I resolve to reverse the current of decline in my field of mastery.

I hope you can all take advantage of these simple principles and utilize your friendships/relationships with one another to help keep each other accountable to all win together to get the results in life you want so you can start living the LIFE you’ve always wanted!

If you are looking for an actual plan with structure and ability to track your progress there is a GREAT program called The Mental Fitness Challenge which several College Universities, Fortune 500 companies and tens of thousands of entrepreneurs  are using.  This program lays out a structured system of improvement, helps you track it and also allows you to have accountability partners to all learn and grow together!

I would love to hear your feedback and connect!

I am on Facebook: Colin Sexton Life-Leadership

Make 2015 your BEST year yet!

God Bless,

Colin Sexton

Positive Thinking and your future.

Positive thinking: It is a “learned behavior”. Yes, it is a learned behavior Just like the negative attitude so many people have today. We have learned that too, through the negative people around us, negative lyrics in the music we listen too, negative “entertainment” on TV ( murders, disrespect to parents, sex etc. )and the media. The only difference is positive thinking we have to “work on” and learn, ON PURPOSE. Negative thinking happens on accident. Automatically; without us even trying. Similar to having to “plant” AND “maintain” flowers or vegetables in a garden, we have to manually “plant” them AND “maintain” them. But weeds grow automatically. Positive thoughts we also have to “plant” AND “maintain” ( flowers or vegetables) negative thoughts, (weeds) will grow automatically…. 🙂

Don’t get me wrong. We WILL have trials in life. Doo doo happens! When these trials come up though, we have the CHOICE how to react. We can’t always control the circumstances but we CAN control our attitude about them or reaction to them. I like to say it is not the problem that’s always the problem, it’s our reaction to it. I heard Chris Brady say once, it’s what “what happens to us in life” it’s “what we DO with what happens to us!”

This week I challenge everyone to have a POSITIVE attitude! ON PURPOSE! Let’s not just “live” life let’s live L.I.F.E.! Living Intentionally For Excellence!

Be Blessed!