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The Journey

 

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While “working” on many things I am focused on one. Though many see my posts, hear my words and some know my heart, few truly KNOW me. My life has always been completely screwed up. Or has it? It never went the way “I” wanted it or has it? Many things were beyond my control but much of it consequences from what WAS in my control.

Although not the way “I” wanted it I see how it was orchestrated and more importantly WHY. ALL things, even the trials and chaos, work together for good for those who love God and are called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28)

Before I knew Him, God knitted me together.  Before I hated Him, God laid the the tracks.
Before I followed Him, God was loading the locomotive of my journey with the coal it needed.

Folks the train hasn’t even left the depot yet…

The first 30 years of my life I feel I was still molten steel in the molding process being brought through the fire, intense heat not yet knowing it’s purpose.

The next ten years were the manufacturing process and assembly of the locomotive. The hammering, grinding, refining, polishing and preparation for the journey and bringing it to the tracks so I could finally look and see down the tracks and where they might be leading me.

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The last five years, yet trials again, able to see and know the reason for the intense heat. The tender, or coal car, has been being loaded for the journey, the coal fueling the fire creating the steam needed. The fired is stoked, the blower is blowing and the damper is open. The engine is chugging and the whistle is sounding…. This train is getting ready to leave the depot…

Onward down the tracks starting the real journey… The purpose…. The legacy…

Some will watch the train depart and wave good bye… Some will stay home.

Some will board the train, others already have…

Some will be waiting at the next depot… Others will wish they would have been..

Stay tuned….

Freedom & Leadership Entrepreneurs To The Resuce!

 

JOB SECURITY:                             image

What is it?  Does it still exist?  I was brought up in a generation where we were taught five simple steps to a successful life:

• Go to school & get good grades
• Go to college
• Get a good job with benefits
• Work hard and get recognized & rewarded for it
• Retire at 55

Does this still work? Does anyone know anyone who went to college but doesn’t have a career in their field? Does anyone know anyone who does have a “good job” in their career but their company owns them? Does anyone know ANY one who can actually retire at 55? 60? 65?

Do you see the trend?

There is a huge shift happening in the economy that has tens of thousands of people turning their 401 K (or sometimes Special K’s) to start their own businesses; to become entrepreneurs, or buy into a franchise (PLEASE check the FEES and actual PROFITS of this option) which is GREAT; unless they haven’t done research and are unwilling to learn what they don’t know.

Now, I am all for being an entrepreneur and am one myself, however, statistics show an alarmingly high rate of businesses fail within the first 5 years and few actually generate a profit if they make it. So what is one to do?

PLAN! Make sure this is not a “spontaneous” decision. (Not that that won’t work) but it is much safer if it is something that is a passion of yours as you will truly enjoy it if it is and also if it is something you have been planning or dreaming about for a long time.

Also make sure you have a good business plan, marketing strategy and check how many other like businesses may be in the area; but the number one thing that will give you an edge over the others is INFORMATION. The companies that learn at a faster rate than the others, will be the ones to grow (both personally and business) faster.

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Is one of the most if not THE most important area to learn and grow in. True leadership will teach principles of integrity, character and horror as well as people skills, conflict resolution and over all leadership as opposed to “management”.

We are now in the “Information Age” and leadership information is honestly the difference between where you are and where you want to be, again, both personally and in business.

Now imagine you are able to combine leadership development as an entrepreneur with a systematic (Franchise) growth plan and continued education platform? That, interestingly enough, is exactly what LIFE Leadership has done. The LIFE program offers PROFIT SHARING to individuals who become LIFE members to learn for their own personal growth, to better run their businesses or corporations or if they want to utilize their true entrepreneurial spirit and gifts, build communities of leaders. In either case this is a “win/win” option as you can never “lose” if you are investing in knowledge.

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To quote:
“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.” – Benjamin Franklin

I encourage all of you who have started their own business or are thinking about it, to look into this program/opportunity whether it is to better run your business or to make LIFE your business. College may teach us to succeed at a job, but the LIFE business seems to be focused and determined to help people succeed in LIFE. What good is a “good job” if your marriage is falling apart? What good is $200,000 a year if you don’t know how to manage it? If you spend it your still broke!

I encourage you all to chase your DREAMS, but also encourage you all to plan them, and if possible, learn from someone who actually has the results you want or a COMMUNITY of them!

God Bless,

Colin Sexton

CHANGE: Between the Decision and the Process

CHANGE:

It  is an interesting action, decision and process.  Many want the results of change but will do almost anything to avoid the process it involves to get those results, whether in our personal lives (Relationships, health, finances or entertainment/education habits) or in business.  I completely understand this  as I was one completely opposed to change after I “knew it all” 🙂  What is interesting is although the process may take time, the decision takes only a split second.

CHANGE

There’s no way around it. If we ever want to see any growth in any area of our lives or business we will need to change.   The truth is in order to get where we want to go in life we have to become who we haven’t become yet.

Take a body builder for example:  Before they started lifting and gained muscle mass, they had other habits; what they did with their time, their diet, they mindset etc.  In order to increase strength and size and to stay in the routine of it all, they needed to change every one of those areas.

I have heard it said that the only person who like change is a baby! Why do so few people like change? Funny you should ask!  Because it requires us getting out of comfort zone (which if we are honest with ourselves isn’t truly comfortable but rather just FAMILIAR).  It requires commitment and it requires a certain level of humility to admit maybe we DON’T “know it all”.

In business we should always be growing both personally and in process improvement.  To simply continue to keep doing the same thing because “that’s just the way we’ve always done it” does not work in the information age where so much of our competition is actively learning, growing and in turn changing.  The whole point of process improvement is to CHANGE what doesn’t work or even what might be “good enough” to become “better” or GREAT!

I will leave you with a one of my favorite but convicting quotes.  Take a breath and be ready for it for it will either offend you or INSPIRE you to strive to change to achieve the GREATNESS you KNOW you all have in side you!

“Winners hate losing enough to change and losers hate changing enough to lose.”  Orrin Woodward

Blessings,

 

Colin Sexton

 

 

 

Do You Know Who Your Dealing With?

Understanding the four temperaments is crucial for any and every relationship both personally AND in business.

There are so many avenues to take as I start typing this.  There are so many types of relationships:  Marriage, parenting, friends, co-workers, other family etc.  I hope to uncover a couple of known but NOT so known common denominators that are essential in ALL relationships as well as direct you all to some helpful information that has helped tens of thousands of people

Maybe you are married and struggling to keep it together, rekindle the fire or simply “understand” your spouse.  Maybe you are having a really tough time with your relationship, or lack of a relationship, you’re your children.  Maybe you have jumped from relationship to relationship never having one work out always thinking it’s the “other person” all the time or maybe you have had a pattern or relationship issues with every boss or co-worker you have ever had, again, thinking it’s always the “other person”.

I will list the common denominators that impact all relationships and explain a little about how and why they do.

PERSONALITY:  As there are many different people, there are many different personality traits within each and every one of us.  You may have heard some of these terms but never understood exactly what they mean as some people, consultants or counselors will label them differently.  Some experts say there are 4 different personalities, some say 16, some say 32.  Some label them by words, colors or energies.  I have found in dealing with many people that there are many “disorders” that people are “medicated” for, that are often simply personality traits!!!  NOW how important is it to understand them?

Here are a few examples of personality labels:

  • Blue, Red, Yellow and White or Blue, Orange, Gold and Green (among others).
  • Right Brain Introvert, Right Brain Extrovert, Left Brain Introvert and Left Brain Extrovert. (This is commonly used in horse training as well)
  • D.I.S.C.  or Dominant, Inspiring, Supportive and Cautious
  • Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic and Sanguine.

I will explain just a little on the different types to help you even through this post, understand people around you better.  It is not always “our fault” we are the way we are but it can be our fault if we STAY there. J)

The Choleric: (Dominant) is generally an extrovert and a very driven person who is said to be a “born leader”.  The Choleric is also known as dynamic, goal oriented, one to delegate, one who thrives on opposition and moves quickly into action.  Some of their short comings however are that they are strong willed, impatient, bossy, not complementary and quick tempered. ( Yes I AM working on all of theses :) )

The Sanguine:  (Inspiring) is also commonly an extrovert who is also said to possess strong leadership skills as they usually have an appealing personality, very talkative, “LIFE of the party”, enthusiastic, emotional, always a “kid at heart” or (just a kid!), curious, spontaneous and a “live for today” attitude.  As FUN we sound “we” sound we also have some slight wrinkles to iron out such as our restless energy, sometimes talk TOO much and are TOO energetic to where we completely freak people out!, we can have a tendency to complain and be egotistical (Not me I’m one of the most humble people I know!! 🙂 ) and we never seem to “grow up”.

The Melancholic:  (Supportive) is going to be a thoughtful, analytical, sensitive and contentious.  They are one to set high standards, be very schedule/detail oriented, have the ability to see the problem and find a creative solution.  Some of their weaknesses are:  They tend to be moody or depressed, self-centered (wanting attention to them), remembers the negatives and has a tendency to have a low self-image.

The Phlegmatic:  (Cautious) is generally going to have a “low key” personality, easy going, calm cool and collected, patient and sympathetic.  They however tend to be unenthusiastic, low motivated, self-righteous, shy and worrisome.

To sum it up, let’s use a scenario of car keys.  A Melancholic personality may make SURE they put the car keys in the same place every single time, the Choleric may get mad if they can’t find them fast enough, a Phlegmatic may just not care while a Sanguine may lose them every time or possibly forget they even have a car.

Now you may have been able to identify some of these characteristics in either yourself, spouse or co-worker.  Here is where knowing this can be beneficial.

Once you understand “them” a little more, you may be able to have a better idea how to approach and communicate with them and realize it’s not so much about “what” we say, or even how we say it but rather what they heard.

Hope this sheds some light on a few things for you all!

I would love to hear your feedback!

God Bless,

 

Colin Sexton

What Do You Want To Be When You Give Up?

What do you want to be when you give up? 

“Give up what” you ask? Funny you should ask! 🙂  Your DREAMS!

 


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I was doing the Facebook scroll and ran across this cartoon by cartoonist Joe Dator Cartoonist (Who’s name/credits sadly have been removed from the viral pic) and it really hit me because this is EXACTLY what we try to fight…. people giving up on their dreams!

This cartoon paints a picture so incredibly realistic its not even funny…literally as so many have just settled for “employee”, “mediocrity” just “going with the flow” (which in many cases if compared to the “flow” of a dead fish floating down stream).

What happened to this pic in it’s ORIGINAL form?  Remember when we were kids and asked “What do you want to be when you grow up?”  Remember the DREAMS we had?  The cars?  The houses? The travels etc.?  Remember the things we wanted to ACCOMPLISH in life?  Astronaut?  Movie Star? Supermodel? Famous musician? Entrepreneur extraordinaire ? What happened?

I’ll tell you what happened.  We have been conditioned to think THINKING outside the box was bad, silly, ridiculous.  Even our friends and family in many cases will tell us: “Good luck with that”, “You’ll never make it” or “Get real!”.

We have also been conditioned to think FAILURE is bad.  So lets add the two up:

FAILURE + THINKING (about DREAMING) x (Thinking )DREAMING IS BAD = GIVING UP ON DREAMS

As easy as it was to “type” that equation it reminded me of when “I” had given up on MY dreams.  I since have wrote my OWN equation which has produced a much different outcome.

You can write YOUR own equation, visualize YOUR future the way YOU want it, learn from people who have results you want and you will never have to answer the question in the cartoon.

What do you want out of life? Don’t let where you are define you.  Define NOW where you want to be and get there. Not sure how?  I can and WILL help you.  It’s what I do. 🙂

Blessings,

Colin Sexton

 

 

 

FEAR NOT! Don’t Let Circumstances Stop You From Your Dreams!

Just a short post today as I reflect on so many recent conversations this last week of people who are entrepreneur minded and want to do something different and get out of corporate America but have fears for various reasons: doubt in their ability, critics, fear of the unknown, failure, the economy etc.Eaglecropquote

I just wanted to take a minute to address each of those situations…

1.  Doubt:  First things I like to tell/remind people is you were created for a reason and purpose.  You have the same “ability” to succeed as anyone else.  The key is to find your passion, discover your purpose and define your strengths and GO!  Surround yourself with other leaders who believe in you and make sure you believe in you!

2.  Critics: Who cares? 🙂 (Sorry… 🙂  Chances are if they criticize you for becoming an entrepreneur or thinking outside of the box, they will always be trapped in the very mental, financial or social matrix you are fighting to get OUT of.

3.  Fear of the Unknown: I never feared the unknown because for some reason, to me, the “known” was very boring.   Now that coupled with improper information and thinking during my youth unfortunately took me down a wrong path BUT I rose from the ashes to get things right and succeed.  NEVER fear the unknown for we know what we know but we DON’T know what we don’t know and it’s what we learn after we know it all that matters…

4. Failure:  This video link explains what I think about FAILURE. 🙂

5.  Economy: There were many businesses and entrepreneurs that prospered and rose to success in a down economy even the great depression.   Inventions, real estate and a true understanding of business and leadership can help anyone make it and stay a float in a down economy.  The KEY is to SAVE money NOW not spend it frivolously as capitol is going to be the difference maker.

To sum it all up:

1.  Write down your dreams.

2.  Have a game plan and set goals.

3.  Learn from people who have succeeded already.

4.  Never listen to critics or let them take the wind from your sales.

5.  Never give up. NEVER!

 

Blessings,

 

Colin Sexton

 

Do You Understand Your Employees? Your Friends? Your Family?

 

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Understaning the four temperaments is crucial for any and every relationship both personally AND in business.

There are so many avenues to take as I start typing this.  There are so many types of relationships:  Marriage, parenting, friends, co-workers, other family etc.  I hope to uncover a couple of known but NOT so known common denominators that are essential in ALL relationships as well as direct you all to some helpful information that has helped tens of thoousands of people

Maybe you are married and struggling to keep it together, rekindle the fire or simply “understand” your spouse.  Maybe you are having a really tough time with your relationship, or lack of a relationship, you’re your children.  Maybe you have jumped from relationship to relationship never having one work out always thinking it’s the “other person” all the time or maybe you have had a pattern or relationship issues with every boss or co-worker you have ever had, again, thinking it’s always the “other person”.

I will list the common denominators that impact all relationships and explain a little about how and why they do.

PERSONALITY:  As there are many different people, there are many different personality traits within each and every one of us.  You may have heard some of these terms but never understood exactly what they mean as some people, consultants or counselors will label them differently.  Some experts say there are 4 different personalities, some say 16, some say 32.  Some label them by words, colors or energies.  I have found in dealing with many people that there are many “disorders” that people are “medicated” for, that are often simply personality traits!!!  NOW how important is it to understand them?

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Here are a few examples of personality labels: 

Blue, Red, Yellow and White or Blue, Orange, Gold and Green (among others).

Right Brain Introvert, Right Brain Extrovert, Left Brain Introvert and Left Brain Extrovert. (This is commonly used in horse training as well)

D.I.S.C.  or Dominant, Inspiring, Supportive and Cautious

Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic and Sanguine.

I will explain just a little on the different types to help you even through this post, understand people around you better.  It is not always “our fault” we are the way we are but it can be our fault if we STAY there. J)

The Choleric: (Dominant) is generally an extrovert and a very driven person who is said to be a “born leader”.  The Choleric is also known as dynamic, goal oriented, one to delegate, one who thrives on opposition and moves quickly into action.  Some of their short comings however are that they are strong willed, impatient, bossy, not complementary and quick tempered. ( Yes I AM working on all of theses  )

The Sanguine:  (Inspiring) is also commonly an extrovert who is also said to possess strong leadership skills as they usually have an appealing personality, very talkative, “LIFE of the party”, enthusiastic, emotional, always a “kid at heart” or (just a kid!), curious, spontaneous and a “live for today” attitude.  As FUN we sound “we” sound we also have some slight wrinkles to iron out such as our restless energy, sometimes talk TOO much and are TOO energetic to where we completely freak people out!, we can have a tendency to complain and be egotistical (Not me I’m one of the most humble people I know!! 🙂 ) and we never seem to “grow up”.

The Melancholic:  (Supportive) is going to be a thoughtful, analytical, sensitive and contentious.  They are one to set high standards, be very schedule/detail oriented, have the ability to see the problem and find a creative solution.  Some of their weaknesses are:  They tend to be moody or depressed, self-centered (wanting attention to them), remembers the negatives and has a tendency to have a low self-image.

The Phlegmatic:  (Cautious) is generally going to have a “low key” personality, easy going, calm cool and collected, patient and sympathetic.  They however tend to be unenthusiastic, low motivated, self-righteous, shy and worrisome.

To sum it up, let’s use a scenario of car keys.  A Melancholic personality may make SURE they put the car keys in the same place every single time, the Choleric may get mad if they can’t find them fast enough, a Phlegmatic may just not care while a Sanguine may lose them every time or possibly forget they even have a car.

Now you may have been able to identify some of these characteristics in either yourself, spouse or co-worker.  Here is where knowing this can be beneficial.

Once you understand “them” a little more, you may be able to have a better idea how to approach and communicate with them and realize it’s not so much about “what” we say, or even how we say it but rather what they heard.

Hope this sheds some light on a few things for y’all

I would love to hear your feedback!

God Bless,

Colin Sexton

 

The Power Of Debt and Self Development

If you were to go to any city and interview people on the streets, ask any friends or relatives or co-workers at your job and ask them: “Would you rather be in debt or out of debt?”  what to you think the percentage of each answer would be?  50/50?  60/40? 100/0?

Lets face it, very few of us WANT to be in debt (I am avoiding saying “no one” wants to be in debt because I always get that ONE person who…. ) 🙂 but in as much as few of us want to be in debt, many of us make several choices, on purpose, daily that actually put, or worse yet keep us in debt.  As soon as we fall into the matrix of debt and compound interest we are often trapped.  Compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world.  With this wonderful creation, we can all wake up more broke than we were when we went to bed the night before! 🙂

In 1999 Warren Buffet was speaking to a group of students in Nebraska about financial success and the three most important principles he shared were:

1. The most important thing to do to succeed is get out of debt.  “You cant make financial progress borrowing money at 18-20%”

2.  The second thing to do is stay out of debt.”  He said “It’s way easier to stay out of trouble than to get out of trouble.”

3.  Invest in yourself! He talked of reading, not needing big name schools with big dollar tuition and getting your mind prepared.  “Your best financial future is your own ability and the capacity to use those abilities to their potential.” and “The biggest thing for your financial future is your self.”

It is interesting that Ben Franklin years before also advised:

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”

Ben

I will add the talk from Warren Buffet soon!

 

Be blessed,

 

Colin Sexton

“I Am a Self Made….”

We have all heard it; “I’m a self made man/woman!” as if they never learned any success habits, motivation or advice from anyone but themselves. Seems kind of fishy eh?

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People are quick to take full credit for their success but has anyone ever heard anyone say “I’m a self made FAILURE!?” Nope! “Why not?” you ask? Funny you should ask! Here is the answer: When it comes to failing, people usually have someone else to blame for that, so there is no reason to take credit for failure as long as it’s someone elses fault. Coincidentally, blaming others is one of the main reasons people CONTINUE to fail because if we don’t take responsibility for failure, we will never look for what we need to change as in our minds, it isn’t us that needs to change but rather the person or circumstance we are blaming.

Failing in itself is not bad by any means, in fact, as long as we can learn from it and fail forward, it can be the best thing to happen to us if we let it.  How many times did you fail trying to walk?  Trying to ride a bike? Catch a baseball or defend a spiked volleyball?  Do you see the power and value in failing?

Embrace it! learn from it! Let it refine and transform you into a success!

Be Blessed,

Colin Sexton

 

GOT STRUGGLE?

Struggle

How many of you remember how many times you fell trying to walk as a baby?  How about falling as you learned how to ride a bike?  Catching a baseball or football?  Imagine if we had all quit trying to walk after we fell the fifth time?  Imagine a world of adults crawling around because we refused to endure the struggle….

Learning how to walk down the road to success is no different.  Anytime we strive to achieve anything of importance, especially if it is against the “status quo” or the “Council of They” we will face struggle.  Heck, even in the Bible Jesus says “In this world you will have trouble”.  So if we are told we will have trouble just being, there is no doubt that on your way to achieving you will have trouble or “struggle”.

Sadly, many of us don’t always remember the greatness that is within us and that we were created for so we tend to lose the will to keep going.  There are many reasons we may talk our self out of persevering :

1.  We may not have a true destination, big enough dream or why that we are striving for. (When taking a trip, we usually plan out where we are going and map out how to get there.  We must also know our end point or dream on the road to our dreams)

2. We talk our selves out of it often convincing ourselves we aren’t good enough or worthy of success. (I can’t believe how I used to talk to myself as a teenager and young adult.  I was sabotaging myself! If our friends talked to us the way we talk to ourselves sometimes, we’d pop ’em in the nose! 🙂

3. We lack support or a community of people heading in the same direction.  (Many people around us believe it or not, do not always want to see us succeed or strive for excellence. It actually can convict others that they may have to change something in their lives in order to change something in their lives and change isn’t always welcome.)

4.  Excuses.  We make excuses.  I was alllllllllllllways making excuses why I “couldn’t” do this or that because of my health, finances etc. In the book The Magic Of Thinking Big there is a whole chapter dedicated to this exact topic.

Without the struggle, the victory wouldn’t mean as much.  Let me leave you with a few examples of people who struggled and how and their outcome will be self explanatory.

–  Sylvester Stalone:  Sold his dog (His best friend) for $50 to feed himself on his way to success.

–  Thomas Edison:  A teacher of his said he was “To stupid to learn anything”. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.

–  Henry Ford:  failed and went broke five times before he succeeded.

–  Vince Lombardi:  It was said of him: “He possesses minimal football knowledge and lacks motivation.” Lombardi would later write, It’s not whether you get knocked down; it’s whether you get back up. Just never quit!

–  Michael Jordan (Contrary to popular belief he wasn’t “cut” from his team but placed on JV) still his struggles made him.  He is quoted: “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”  SUCCESSSTRUGGLE

To sum it up: Go through struggle.  Don’t become it.  Never quit!

 

 

Be blessed,

Colin Sexton