Does your success journey look like this?
We are all guilty. How many times have we said the following:
“I can’t believe they said that!” or “I can’t believe this is happening to me!” or how about this ” “It’s not my fault I had a bad past!”
Sometimes it’s not what “they said” but rather what we heard. It’s not what happens to us but rather how we respond to it. “It” isn’t always the issue it’s what we do with it.
Our vision of what happens, what has happened or even what will happen depends entirely of what lens we choose to see through. Yes, I said we “choose”.
I was one of those people who “couldn’t help it” because of the way I was brought up by an angry father. I had a bad mindset or made bad decisions because of a bad past. I took everything everyone said personally and there was no other lens for me to see through, that’s just the way life was.
After getting introduced to self development and leadership development and associating with people who chose to make no excuses to improve daily; I began to see that my negative attitude and mindset as well as how I viewed the world, people and circumstance was my choice. We may not be in control to change the past or a circumstance but we are in control of our attitude towards it.
It’s all mindset. Sadly few realize it because we are being programmed to think we are “victims” or it’s always “someones elses fault” and constantly having negative pumped into our conscious and subconscious minds.
How can you change your mindset? Here are a couple tips:
- Unplug the TV: Oh yes I did! I said it! UNPLUG. Even if the shows you watch are “funny” or “entertaining” most of the time the TV is sending a negative message: if not through the show itself, through the news, commercials or previews of some new shoot em up, drug ’em up, violence them up movie
- Find some good books to read: Books on motivation, self development or success. Stretch the mind and expand your dream!
- Change what you listen too: Much of the “music” today again usually has a negative message or undertone. Find some positive music or to switch it up!
- Stop associating with negative people: Many people can light up the room. Some when they enter and others when they leave! 🙂
Make a complete media shift and associate with positive people and you will completely transform your view of things, your mindset and your life.
Busy busy busy! everyone is BUSY! Are they productive though?
As I started my journey with leadership, consulting and social media marketing, I found my time was instantly eaten up every day but with few accomplishments. I quickley realized why: poor time management.
This last year I have been working very intentionally on managing my time to make that shift from simply “busy” to productive.
Here are a few quick tips to help get on track!
- Make a list: Not just in your head but write it down. ( Especially is you are of the Sanguine personality or “labeled” ADHD)
- Discipline: Discipline! Discipline! Discipline! Set a mental alarm for yourself when NOT managing your time. It works. Trust me! 🙂
- Filter ALL distractions: Other hobbies, uminportant things or social media (excpet my posts 🙂 )
- Block sections of time: Blocking sections of time to work on things with the mindset of “This is what I’m working on. Period. Nothing else is an option!” will help you make great strides in production.
- Write down (again on a list) your goals: “Seeing” what you want to accomplish is more effective than simply “thinking” about what you want to accomplish.
- Tell someone your plan and goals: Accountability is important in everything from losing weights, staying on track financially and also in time management. If you are working with a team on a project telling everyone on the team will not only help you but also inspire them to raise their bar as well.
Iron sharpens iron.
- PDCA: Plan. Do. Check. Adjust. Check from time to time your actual production and how your time management plan is working. If your falling off track or not hitting your goals, that is where we “adjust” to improve.
Hope this can help you get even just a little more production from your efforts and time!
Years ago we were told to lock our cars and houses at night or when we left so burglars wouldn’t get in.
Obviously locking doors didn’t always help as they would simply break windows etc.
The times have changed. No longer are the majority of burglars looking for jewelry and TV’s. Their after your credit cards, bank accounts, your identity and digital life.
Equifax recently experienced a data breach that affected 143 million people, the majority of which is adults, however people much younger are experiencing this and never find out until their 18 years old. Your date of birth, social security number, driver’s license number, and more have been exposed and will CONTINUE to be.
It is estimated that one out of every two people will have their identity compromised in some way, shape or form in the next year. That means if you have anyone else in your household…. you guessed it…
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Association is everything:
We are the average of the five people we surround ourselves with.
I remember when I started out as an entrepreneur, I tried being “the business person” while clinging to my same association, habits and mindset of the “regular me”. They say a rising tide raises all ships and my association tide wasn’t rising. My VISION tide, however, was.
There came a point where I realized I needed to change my association. Naturally I wanted my friends to join my journey of rising above the status quo, to leave good enough behind to chase excellence but sadly, many were content with mediocrity and complacency.
I knew I needed to chance my association, to change those five people I was going to be the average of, to get around others that would inspire me to raise my own bar and succeed to finally get the results I truly wanted in life.
Since gradually doing just that, my results and success have definitely followed even to the point of attracting success minded people just being out and about.
The road to success isn’t always freshly paved blacktop. There are often many decisions we must make and one of my recommendations is, if you truly want to accomplish things that you or your current association isn’t, is this: “If you can’t change your friends, it’s time to change your friends.”
I was down and out but stopped playing the victim card with a victim mentality, took responsibility, plugged into different information, earned the respect and time of a couple who were very successful in business (and life in general) and was able to mentor with them (and still do).
Since then I’ve paid off $20,000+ in #debt in the last year and a half, started/built a couple businesses, have more in savings than I’ve EVER had, have traveled over 20 states and several countries and have been blessed enough to have taken people with me. On this journey I have learned you can succeed with the right mindset, will to win and without borrowing money.
I would like to break down what principles and actions have got me where i am today which is just the start of things!
1. Get out of debt: Start saving immediately! Even if just five or ten dollars a mont AS your paying off credit cards. It’s not the amount your saving but rather developing the habit of saving so when you do get debt free you are still saving and not blowing all your money because you’re “out of debt now”.
2. Stay out of debt: Continue living the principles that got you our of debt.
3. Invest in yourself: Warren Buffett doesn’t credit his college degrees for his success but rather his Dale Carnegie certification. He tells us self development, financial development and leadership development is what will help us to excell in life and business.
4. Associate: with people who have results you want and of GREATER success than you: The old saying goes: “If you have around dogs, you’ll get fleas. The same rings true if you associate with people of success minds and more successful than us.
5. Leverage systems: Archimedes said; “Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.” It’s true today. The most successful businesses in the world leverage systems of technology, leadership and community. Coincidentally this is the exact principles and people I have benefited from and leveraged to get where I am and will continue to do so; however you have to also do the work!
6. Get a mentor: “A crooked line doesn’t know it’s crooked until it’s placed next to a straight line.” As is started out this post, a mentor is key. They have been where we are going so they know the way better and faster. I am blessed to be working with someone who speaks all over the world and does business and leadership development talks for multi billion dollar corporations.
7. Serve and teach others what you’ve learned: It’s been said: “You haven’t truly learned until you have taught someone.” I believe this wholeheartedly.
When you plug into proven systems and successful people who have results, coupled with a sincere commitment to learn what we don’t know, grow where we didn’t want to grow… we will go where others wont go… Where do you want to go?
I am committed to helping you get there but it’s up to you to determine just where that is. 🙂
2017 IS HERE!
It’s time for the New Years Resolutions right?
Years Resolutions… They often DIE by February 2nd!
January 2nd the gyms are packed but come February 2nd they are empty.
Why is that? My experiences in my past were once I fell off my resolution, whether it be subconsciously or consciously, I gave up. It was only a New Years resolution not a resolution for the whole New Year. Once I stopped that was it.
When we maker the mental shift from New Years resolution to a goal, there can be a long term commitment to continuing long after the resolution died.
When we hit the goal we have achieved we can raise our bar and set a new goal. When we have failed to hit our goal we can reset it and try again which will allow us to continue that resolution to actually get what we hoped for!
Find a victory in every defeat to remain hopeful and find a defeat in victory to remain humble…
Dante Gabriel Rossetti, a famous 19th-century poet and artist, was once approached by an elderly man.
Rossetti looked over them carefully. After the first few, he knew that they were worthless but Rossetti was a kind man, he told the elderly man as gently as possible that the pictures were without much value and showed little talent. He was sorry, but he could not lie to the man. The man was disappointed, but seemed to expect Rossetti’s judgment.
The old man then apologized for taking up Rossetti’s time, but asked him to look at a few more drawings.
Rossetti looked over the second batch of sketches and immediately became enthusiastic over the talent they revealed. “These,” he said, “oh, these are good.”
“This young student has a great talent. He should be given every help and encouragement. He has a great future.”
Rossetti could see that the old fellow was deeply moved.
“Who is this fine young artist?” he asked. ”Your son?”
“No,” said the old man sadly.
“It is me – 40 years ago. If only I had heard your praise then! For you see, I got discouraged and gave up – too soon.”
In my experiences over the years working with many people, many of whom are “self motivated” and take pride in the fact they “Don’t need encouragement”, I have notice an almost subconscious yearning for encouragement and recognition, even in the strongest of personalities.
I have seen very promising entrepreneurs literally give up on their dreams, largely due to the lack of encouragement from their peers, family or mentors.
I was one of them…. almost…
I will never forget two specific moments that are still like a dagger in my heart that actually now fuel me.
- I was maybe 28 years old, just getting clean and sober and had my passion for music still and wanting to put together a band or even just record a CD. I purchased a drum set to get back in the groove (already had guitar & amp etc) and had a friend of mine mock me and say “You 28 years old why would you buy a drum set?!”
- The second time I remember is when I was wanting to start my Lawn Care business (the first time) and made some flyers, told a friend what I was going to do and his words were, I kid you not; “Good luck with that”.
As I stated earlier, I use it to fuel me… now, but at the time it honestly devastated me as I was just starting to get back on my feet and get some hope back.
I want to encourage you all to encourage and appreciate/recognize people within your organization or people/teams you are working with. You will find it will bless not only them, but you and everyone they will impact down the road,
Seven Secrets To Success.
On our journey to success, regardless of what area it is, we will run into obstacles and set backs. This can either stop us or inspire us to run harder based on our mindset.
One thing that will help make those bump smooth is knowing why we are going against the grain of mediocrity.
1. Know your WHY! Nothing happens but first a dream…
2. Believe it! Visualize it! Meditate/PRAY on it! As a man thinketh so is he…
3. Invest in & grow your SELF personally, financially and in business. Warren Buffett’s advice:
A) Get out of debt.
B) STAY out of debt.
C) Invest In yourself.
4. Lead by example don’t manage by position. Push self and love others not push others and love self.
5. Do the WORK.
“Opportunity is missed by most because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas Edison
6. Don’t listen to the critics! Let your results prove them wrong! Listen only those who HAVE THE RESULTS you want. Find a mentor.
7. SERVE OTHERS!!! As you learn; teach. As you succeed; teach & help others succeed. When you “make it” Inspire others to learn, teach and serve others!
Whether we wait until after we get the results we want or we are getting the results on the journey, I encourage people to share what they learn to help bless others.
This world is a dog eat dog and often selfish with true success becoming increasingly difficult. If we have a “servant leadership” heart to help others learn how to get ahead more in life to help them, their families and communities we can’t but help but truly be the difference we ant to see,
So 2016 is three quarters done! Have you succeeded or have you, for lack of better terms “failed”? If you have failed fear not! You haven’t failed unless you’ve quit! Those shortcoming are in the past!
Even the dog in the mirror knows what she sees “behind her” in the mirror is just that, behind her…
The failures of 2016 are smaller than they appear! and…. In the past. If we CHOSE we can USE the failures to learn from and build upon much like Michael Jordan used HIS failures (getting kicked off of the team, missing game winning shots etc.) To succeed.
This next year you have another chance! Every day you have another chance!! Spend less time looking in the rear view mirror and where you have been, and MORE time looking forward at the road ahead of you and where you are going. As great as Michael Jordan was, he always learned from people around him and still had a coach…. imagine if all of us were willing to learn from people around us and were willing to take council/mentor from a coach? What could we accomplish? What do you want to accomplish? Will what you are doing now allow you too? If not…you need different information, different association to truly get the results you want…..and we are. And we will!! Its what we do!
What are your goals for the next four months?