What Do You Want To Be When You Give Up?

What do you want to be when you give up? 

“Give up what” you ask? Funny you should ask! 🙂  Your DREAMS!

 


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I was doing the Facebook scroll and ran across this cartoon by cartoonist Joe Dator Cartoonist (Who’s name/credits sadly have been removed from the viral pic) and it really hit me because this is EXACTLY what we try to fight…. people giving up on their dreams!

This cartoon paints a picture so incredibly realistic its not even funny…literally as so many have just settled for “employee”, “mediocrity” just “going with the flow” (which in many cases if compared to the “flow” of a dead fish floating down stream).

What happened to this pic in it’s ORIGINAL form?  Remember when we were kids and asked “What do you want to be when you grow up?”  Remember the DREAMS we had?  The cars?  The houses? The travels etc.?  Remember the things we wanted to ACCOMPLISH in life?  Astronaut?  Movie Star? Supermodel? Famous musician? Entrepreneur extraordinaire ? What happened?

I’ll tell you what happened.  We have been conditioned to think THINKING outside the box was bad, silly, ridiculous.  Even our friends and family in many cases will tell us: “Good luck with that”, “You’ll never make it” or “Get real!”.

We have also been conditioned to think FAILURE is bad.  So lets add the two up:

FAILURE + THINKING (about DREAMING) x (Thinking )DREAMING IS BAD = GIVING UP ON DREAMS

As easy as it was to “type” that equation it reminded me of when “I” had given up on MY dreams.  I since have wrote my OWN equation which has produced a much different outcome.

You can write YOUR own equation, visualize YOUR future the way YOU want it, learn from people who have results you want and you will never have to answer the question in the cartoon.

What do you want out of life? Don’t let where you are define you.  Define NOW where you want to be and get there. Not sure how?  I can and WILL help you.  It’s what I do. 🙂

Blessings,

Colin Sexton

 

 

 

FEAR NOT! Don’t Let Circumstances Stop You From Your Dreams!

Just a short post today as I reflect on so many recent conversations this last week of people who are entrepreneur minded and want to do something different and get out of corporate America but have fears for various reasons: doubt in their ability, critics, fear of the unknown, failure, the economy etc.Eaglecropquote

I just wanted to take a minute to address each of those situations…

1.  Doubt:  First things I like to tell/remind people is you were created for a reason and purpose.  You have the same “ability” to succeed as anyone else.  The key is to find your passion, discover your purpose and define your strengths and GO!  Surround yourself with other leaders who believe in you and make sure you believe in you!

2.  Critics: Who cares? 🙂 (Sorry… 🙂  Chances are if they criticize you for becoming an entrepreneur or thinking outside of the box, they will always be trapped in the very mental, financial or social matrix you are fighting to get OUT of.

3.  Fear of the Unknown: I never feared the unknown because for some reason, to me, the “known” was very boring.   Now that coupled with improper information and thinking during my youth unfortunately took me down a wrong path BUT I rose from the ashes to get things right and succeed.  NEVER fear the unknown for we know what we know but we DON’T know what we don’t know and it’s what we learn after we know it all that matters…

4. Failure:  This video link explains what I think about FAILURE. 🙂

5.  Economy: There were many businesses and entrepreneurs that prospered and rose to success in a down economy even the great depression.   Inventions, real estate and a true understanding of business and leadership can help anyone make it and stay a float in a down economy.  The KEY is to SAVE money NOW not spend it frivolously as capitol is going to be the difference maker.

To sum it all up:

1.  Write down your dreams.

2.  Have a game plan and set goals.

3.  Learn from people who have succeeded already.

4.  Never listen to critics or let them take the wind from your sales.

5.  Never give up. NEVER!

 

Blessings,

 

Colin Sexton

 

Do You Understand Your Employees? Your Friends? Your Family?

 

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Understaning the four temperaments is crucial for any and every relationship both personally AND in business.

There are so many avenues to take as I start typing this.  There are so many types of relationships:  Marriage, parenting, friends, co-workers, other family etc.  I hope to uncover a couple of known but NOT so known common denominators that are essential in ALL relationships as well as direct you all to some helpful information that has helped tens of thoousands of people

Maybe you are married and struggling to keep it together, rekindle the fire or simply “understand” your spouse.  Maybe you are having a really tough time with your relationship, or lack of a relationship, you’re your children.  Maybe you have jumped from relationship to relationship never having one work out always thinking it’s the “other person” all the time or maybe you have had a pattern or relationship issues with every boss or co-worker you have ever had, again, thinking it’s always the “other person”.

I will list the common denominators that impact all relationships and explain a little about how and why they do.

PERSONALITY:  As there are many different people, there are many different personality traits within each and every one of us.  You may have heard some of these terms but never understood exactly what they mean as some people, consultants or counselors will label them differently.  Some experts say there are 4 different personalities, some say 16, some say 32.  Some label them by words, colors or energies.  I have found in dealing with many people that there are many “disorders” that people are “medicated” for, that are often simply personality traits!!!  NOW how important is it to understand them?

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Here are a few examples of personality labels: 

Blue, Red, Yellow and White or Blue, Orange, Gold and Green (among others).

Right Brain Introvert, Right Brain Extrovert, Left Brain Introvert and Left Brain Extrovert. (This is commonly used in horse training as well)

D.I.S.C.  or Dominant, Inspiring, Supportive and Cautious

Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic and Sanguine.

I will explain just a little on the different types to help you even through this post, understand people around you better.  It is not always “our fault” we are the way we are but it can be our fault if we STAY there. J)

The Choleric: (Dominant) is generally an extrovert and a very driven person who is said to be a “born leader”.  The Choleric is also known as dynamic, goal oriented, one to delegate, one who thrives on opposition and moves quickly into action.  Some of their short comings however are that they are strong willed, impatient, bossy, not complementary and quick tempered. ( Yes I AM working on all of theses  )

The Sanguine:  (Inspiring) is also commonly an extrovert who is also said to possess strong leadership skills as they usually have an appealing personality, very talkative, “LIFE of the party”, enthusiastic, emotional, always a “kid at heart” or (just a kid!), curious, spontaneous and a “live for today” attitude.  As FUN we sound “we” sound we also have some slight wrinkles to iron out such as our restless energy, sometimes talk TOO much and are TOO energetic to where we completely freak people out!, we can have a tendency to complain and be egotistical (Not me I’m one of the most humble people I know!! 🙂 ) and we never seem to “grow up”.

The Melancholic:  (Supportive) is going to be a thoughtful, analytical, sensitive and contentious.  They are one to set high standards, be very schedule/detail oriented, have the ability to see the problem and find a creative solution.  Some of their weaknesses are:  They tend to be moody or depressed, self-centered (wanting attention to them), remembers the negatives and has a tendency to have a low self-image.

The Phlegmatic:  (Cautious) is generally going to have a “low key” personality, easy going, calm cool and collected, patient and sympathetic.  They however tend to be unenthusiastic, low motivated, self-righteous, shy and worrisome.

To sum it up, let’s use a scenario of car keys.  A Melancholic personality may make SURE they put the car keys in the same place every single time, the Choleric may get mad if they can’t find them fast enough, a Phlegmatic may just not care while a Sanguine may lose them every time or possibly forget they even have a car.

Now you may have been able to identify some of these characteristics in either yourself, spouse or co-worker.  Here is where knowing this can be beneficial.

Once you understand “them” a little more, you may be able to have a better idea how to approach and communicate with them and realize it’s not so much about “what” we say, or even how we say it but rather what they heard.

Hope this sheds some light on a few things for y’all

I would love to hear your feedback!

God Bless,

Colin Sexton