We all have trials. “Life” happens to us all however not every “bad” is meant to be or stay bad.
We’ve heard many takes on this all: “It’s not how far we fall but rather how high we bounce back up.” “It’s not what happens to us but how we respond.” or “It’s not about what happens to us but rather what we do with what happens to us.” I could go on and on but mindset and response-ability is key.
To quote a once great philosopher: “Not all is as seems.” Mr. Miyagi
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying everything bad that happens is good but rather if we chose to have or develop the mindset and or faith, we can see the whole puzzle as opposed to focus on the piece we are working with and see that all things work together for good.
Not all storms are meant to disrupt your life. Some are meant to clear your path.
Keep fighting. Never give up. Never lose hope. Never lose faith!
A professor asks his class: “If you had $86,400.00 and someone stole $10.00 from you, would you throw away the $86,390.00 you still have to try and get your $10.00 back? Or would you just let it go?”
They all said they would let it go.
He then told them: “You have 86,400 seconds every single day and this time is much more valuable than money. You can always work for more money, but once a second passes, you can never get that time back.”
Every time someone upsets us, it probably took 10 seconds, so why do we throw away the other 86,390 seconds worrying about it or being upset? We all make this mistake at some point so lets work, intentionally, to start letting the little things go and help inspire others to do the same thing.
It is everywhere. In our relationships, at our jobs, in our businesses etc. Sadly, more often than not it goes unresolved. There are several reasons for this which would take days to identify and explain so rather than look at the reasons for the problem, I chose to share some tips for resolving the problem
Regardless how or why the conflict started, let’s just jump to this simple fact. It started. Conflict is seldom between one person and themselves. The old saying: “It takes two to tango” rings true with any conflict..
With that said let’s jump into the steps to effectively resolve that conflict.
1. AFFIRM THE RELATIONSHIP:
The reason I’m here is because I honestly value your friendship more than I value the discomfort of confronting my feelings.
2. SEEK TO UNDERSTAND:
I love what Stephen Covey says: “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” That principle is gold After arriving at a clear understanding, share each others thoughts and perspectives in a non-attacking manner to help the other person see all views.
3. SEEK TO BE UNDERSTOOD:
After arriving at a clear understanding, share each others thoughts and perspectives in a non-attacking manner to help the other person see all views.
4. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY:
A sincere apology will not only affirm the relationship, but it can be magic for diffusing any “hurt feelings”.
5. SEEK AGREEMENT:
After all parties have apologized and accepted responsibility for their share of the conflict, seeking agreement means re-visiting the shared vision that pulled both sides together in the first place. Once everyone agrees that the cause is greater than the conflict all parties will be able to successfully move forward.
Hopefully this helped shed some light on ways to bring resolve to conflict in any and every area of life.
If so, you’re not alone. I have found in myself in the past and working with others that often times we actually make the road like this ourselves by not looking at specifically why it may be not as smooth as we had hoped.
There are many things along the way we can seek to improve or get better at intentionally that will make this road smoother faster.
Are there any areas in our life we can improve upon?
Are there any business habits that have become routine even though we know they may be falling short?
Seek constant improvement and to find resolve in areas we may be falling short and this road can be less rough.
We are all guilty. How many times have we said the following:
“I can’t believe they said that!” or “I can’t believe this is happening to me!” or how about this ” “It’s not my fault I had a bad past!”
Sometimes it’s not what “they said” but rather what we heard. It’s not what happens to us but rather how we respond to it. “It” isn’t always the issue it’s what we do with it.
Our vision of what happens, what has happened or even what will happen depends entirely of what lens we choose to see through. Yes, I said we “choose”.
I was one of those people who “couldn’t help it” because of the way I was brought up by an angry father. I had a bad mindset or made bad decisions because of a bad past. I took everything everyone said personally and there was no other lens for me to see through, that’s just the way life was.
After getting introduced to self development and leadership development and associating with people who chose to make no excuses to improve daily; I began to see that my negative attitude and mindset as well as how I viewed the world, people and circumstance was my choice. We may not be in control to change the past or a circumstance but we are in control of our attitude towards it.
It’s all mindset. Sadly few realize it because we are being programmed to think we are “victims” or it’s always “someones elses fault” and constantly having negative pumped into our conscious and subconscious minds.
How can you change your mindset? Here are a couple tips:
Unplug the TV: Oh yes I did! I said it! UNPLUG. Even if the shows you watch are “funny” or “entertaining” most of the time the TV is sending a negative message: if not through the show itself, through the news, commercials or previews of some new shoot em up, drug ’em up, violence them up movie
Find some good books to read: Books on motivation, self development or success. Stretch the mind and expand your dream!
Change what you listen too: Much of the “music” today again usually has a negative message or undertone. Find some positive music or to switch it up!
Stop associating with negative people: Many people can light up the room. Some when they enter and others when they leave! 🙂
Make a complete media shift and associate with positive people and you will completely transform your view of things, your mindset and your life.
Busy busy busy! everyone is BUSY! Are they productive though?
As I started my journey with leadership, consulting and social media marketing, I found my time was instantly eaten up every day but with few accomplishments. I quickley realized why: poor time management.
This last year I have been working very intentionally on managing my time to make that shift from simply “busy” to productive.
Here are a few quick tips to help get on track!
Make a list: Not just in your head but write it down. ( Especially is you are of the Sanguine personality or “labeled” ADHD)
Discipline: Discipline! Discipline! Discipline! Set a mental alarm for yourself when NOT managing your time. It works. Trust me! 🙂
Filter ALL distractions: Other hobbies, uminportant things or social media (excpet my posts 🙂 )
Block sections of time: Blocking sections of time to work on things with the mindset of “This is what I’m working on. Period. Nothing else is an option!” will help you make great strides in production.
Write down (again on a list) your goals: “Seeing” what you want to accomplish is more effective than simply “thinking” about what you want to accomplish.
Tell someone your plan and goals: Accountability is important in everything from losing weights, staying on track financially and also in time management. If you are working with a team on a project telling everyone on the team will not only help you but also inspire them to raise their bar as well.
Iron sharpens iron.
PDCA: Plan. Do. Check. Adjust. Check from time to time your actual production and how your time management plan is working. If your falling off track or not hitting your goals, that is where we “adjust” to improve.
Hope this can help you get even just a little more production from your efforts and time!
Years ago we were told to lock our cars and houses at night or when we left so burglars wouldn’t get in.
Obviously locking doors didn’t always help as they would simply break windows etc.
The times have changed. No longer are the majority of burglars looking for jewelry and TV’s. Their after your credit cards, bank accounts, your identity and digital life.
Equifax recently experienced a data breach that affected 143 million people, the majority of which is adults, however people much younger are experiencing this and never find out until their 18 years old. Your date of birth, social security number, driver’s license number, and more have been exposed and will CONTINUE to be.
It is estimated that one out of every two people will have their identity compromised in some way, shape or form in the next year. That means if you have anyone else in your household…. you guessed it…
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We are the average of the five people we surround ourselves with.
I remember when I started out as an entrepreneur, I tried being “the business person” while clinging to my same association, habits and mindset of the “regular me”. They say a rising tide raises all ships and my association tide wasn’t rising. My VISION tide, however, was.
There came a point where I realized I needed to change my association. Naturally I wanted my friends to join my journey of rising above the status quo, to leave good enough behind to chase excellence but sadly, many were content with mediocrity and complacency.
I knew I needed to chance my association, to change those five people I was going to be the average of, to get around others that would inspire me to raise my own bar and succeed to finally get the results I truly wanted in life.
Since gradually doing just that, my results and success have definitely followed even to the point of attracting success minded people just being out and about.
The road to success isn’t always freshly paved blacktop. There are often many decisions we must make and one of my recommendations is, if you truly want to accomplish things that you or your current association isn’t, is this: “If you can’t change your friends, it’s time to change your friends.”
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